The Foolishness of Comparison: Why You Must Stop Measuring Your Progress Against Another Man's Starting Line
Why you must stop measuring your progress against another man's starting line. Understanding hidden advantages, minus vs. plus starting points, and running your own race.
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I am the founder of Condit Associates Ltd and Condit Homes Ltd. I write about identity, faith, masculinity, building, and the quiet work of becoming.
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Fatherhood & Masculinity
The Fatherhood of God and Our Free Will
Does God superimpose on human will? The story of the prodigal son reveals the delicate balance between God's sovereignty and human choice.
2026-07-11
Culture & Parenting
The Protruding Nail: What Construction Taught Me About Raising Our Youth
Why we must stop "minding our business" and return to the vital work of communal parenting.
2026-07-10
Fatherhood & Masculinity
The Digital Pacifier: How Screens Are Stealing Our Children's Future (And How Fathers Must Step In)
A generation of young people whose capacity to receive, process, and retain information has been quietly dismantled, and the fathers who were supposed to stop it.
2026-07-04
Identity
The Root and the Remedy
If you have been fighting the behaviour for years and losing, there is a reason. You are likely medicating something. And until that something is found and addressed, the behaviour will keep returning.
2026-06-25
Identity
The Root of the Struggle: Why Many Men Can't Break Free From Addiction
I was addicted to pornography for over a decade. I am not saying that to shock you. I am saying it because if I skip past it, you will read what follows as theory. It is not theory.
2026-06-23
Fatherhood & Masculinity
The Misconceptions of Fatherhood
Fatherhood is not a function. It is a design. Until we understand the difference between what a person does and what a person is, we will keep reducing one of the most sacred roles in human existence to a checklist of duties.
2026-06-22
Fatherhood & Masculinity
The Unseen Foundation: A Tribute to Fathers
Being a builder myself, I know the resources poured into foundations. Nobody sees the foundation after the house is built, but the weight of the entire building rests upon it. Today, we honor the men holding that weight.
2026-06-21
Identity
I Used to Lie About Where I Was From
Whenever people wanted to demean us, they would call us "Nwa Abakaliki." The profiling was so deeply ingrained that I began to wish I was from somewhere else.
2026-06-12
Identity
The Silent Weight: What a Carpool Argument Taught Me About Men's Mental Health
When you see a man raging on the road or arguing over something trivial, it is often not about that incident at all. It is transferred aggression from a heavy burden.
2026-06-11
Identity
Should Boys Be Given Freedom to Choose Their Friends?
The environment a boy grows up in will largely determine the kind of friends he keeps. And the friends he keeps will largely determine the man he becomes.
2026-06-04
Wealth
Fractional Ownership
People wait to save enough to buy a full plot. But it's better to own part of something than to own nothing. Every year, land in Abuja and major cities get more expensive. This is what I've learned.
2026-06-03
Faith & Process
On the Essential and Non-Essential Elements of Christianity
Biblical truth is eternal. Its cultural applications are not. That single distinction, properly understood, could spare the church enormous damage, restore broken relationships, and rescue the faith.
2026-06-02
Building
The Weight You Prayed For
Should people say no to opportunities they are not prepared for? I think the answer is both yes and no and the difference between the two could cost someone their life, their trust, or everything they worked for.
2026-05-27
Faith & Process
Formation
I used to think God was interested primarily in what I could do. But over time, I realized He is more concerned about who I am becoming while learning to do it.
2026-05-26
Marriage & Life
Is Marriage Designed to favour Men or Women?
Marriage was never designed to favor either gender. Once we reduce it to who benefits more, we drag a sacred institution into the marketplace of selfish negotiation.
2026-05-25